Growing up I heard about the stories of women who are really going through tough times in their marital homes and yet they prefer to keep quiet to everything, pretend as if nothing was wrong with them and keep moving.
I used to ask myself how they could do that, every one of them has a reason to be quiet and live as if all is well. I had a conversation with my mother one day when she passionately said “ I stayed with your father because of my children if not because of you I would have left him and gone”. I paused and looked at her for a brief moment then she smiled at me.
I never really thought she had some of those tough moments in life as a woman and a mother, because I saw that the family was a happy one.
For the sake of her children my mother stayed. Others have other genuine reasons to stay with their husbands irrespective of what they are going through.
The question is, is life different as we have it today? A big no. Regardless of where you find yourself in life you have to have a genuine reason why you are staying with that person or job because when you do not accept it and make it better you will continually seek for greener pastures, which is nowhere in this world that we live in. Accept your situation, learn about how to make it better and stop running away.
What you have to remember is someone else is admiring you and sees you to be excelling. Self pity is an enemy to a happy living, desist from it. When speaking about your woes see to it that you are searching for good solutions to them if not keep quiet. For silence is golden.
By Sr. Esther Kutie, SVI
